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You being here means so much! Thanks for taking the time to visit. I’m God’s girl and Tyson’s wife! Together we have 2 beautiful children, Elijah and Olivia. Fun fact: the way people love coffee, I love sweet tea! I am always perfecting my black tea to cane sugar ratio at Starbucks! :)

 

The VISION

Emboldening wives to allow God’s Word to rule in their hearts. When they do this, He will use them to shift the atmosphere in their homes, blessing their husbands and creating a thriving, safe and loving home for her family to dwell.

THE MISSION

Encouraging wives in Christ to pursue Biblical womanhood in their marriages and in motherhood.
 

The beginning

I wasted the early years of my marriage not respecting my husband. Not praying for him. Constantly entertaining the idea of divorce. Blaming my parents for not staying together. Trying to escape my role and responsibilities as a godly wife. Doing everything I could to distract myself from being a God-fearing wife and a loving mother. I truthfully am ashamed at how I behaved and mourn the way I lived all while calling myself a child of God. I have seen first hand that it is all too easy to try to live independently of your family when you’ve become desensitized to wanting to do God’s Will. The enemy then comes in to deceive us into thinking that we are right and our husbands and families are burdens. A lie from the pit of hell.

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The standard

Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them.
— Colossians‬ ‭3:18-19 ESV

I believe in Biblical womanhood. I believe that the Bible clearly defines the role of a husband and the role of a wife in the context of marriage. Husbands have a heavy weight and a responsibility from God as they lead us. But this blog isn’t about them, it’s about us. It’s about how we should conduct ourselves as wives who want to please God and live honorably according to His Word:

Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct. Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear—but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.
— 1 Peter 3:1-4 ESV

This is only ONE scripture of many that God uses to describe what His plan was for women submitted to Him. This way of thinking is not popular today. What a woman is supposed to be is being redefined. What being a Christian wife should look like is being redefined, but God already established all of this in His Word. So, the world doesn’t get to tell us what is right and wrong. As persuasive as the culture is, the culture doesn’t have the final say — God does. We do what He says and show the world that there is better way of living. When everyone is operating in their roles, God gets the glory that that family will thrive from the inside out. As my husband always says: God’s way is better.

 

The purpose 

Here at The Lightingale, I want to help wives avoid some of the pitfalls I fell hard into. Together, we are going to really examine Biblical womanhood and what the Word says about our roles as wives to our husbands and mothers to our children.

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I can raise both hands and say that walking in a way that pleases God in all these areas is not easy. But as I have seen the difficulties that arise when I don’t do what God says, I can say for sure that when I started doing what God said and I started respecting my husband, God flipped things around and we began to prosper in our marriage. Which in turn makes the home environment our children in to be full of life and love.

Wife. You can do this. Not for our own glory but for God’s:

You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.
— Matthew 5:14-16 ESV

Letting your light shine starts with the people you interact with everyday. Let the light of Christ you should shine “before others” start in your home with your husband and your children.

When we do this, our light won’t have a choice but to overflow into our friendships, in our communities, in our churches and in this world. Our small acts of obedience to God will make a big difference.

Thanks for coming along. Feel free to stay a while, read what I believe, check out the latest podcast episode, read the blog or drop me a line if you want!

All for God’s glory,

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